It is common to have disturbing dreams for some period afterwards; or not be able to dream about the husband (or wife) at all; or to see the partner in the distance but not get near. In accepting the death, meeting any feelings of loss, grief, anger and continuing love, the dream may become as below.
The example both shows the resolution of the loss, but also the paradox felt at realising the meeting was an inner reality. Example: ‘A couple of months ago as I was waking I felt my husband’s arm across me and most realistically experienced my hand wrapping around his arm and turning towards him (which I had done so often in his lifetime) and saying “1 thought you had died. Thank God you have not.” Then I awoke alone and terribly shaken’ (Mrs I).
A critic might say this is only a dream in which a lonely woman is replaying memories of her dead husband’s presence for her own comfort—thus her disappointment on being disillusioned. Whatever our opinion, the woman has within her such memories to replay. These are reality.
The inner reality is of what experience was left within her from the relationship. Her challenge is whether she can meet this treasure with its share of pain, and draw out of it the essence which enriches her own being. That is the spiritual life of her husband.
The aliveness’ of her husband in that sense is also social, because many other people share memories of him. What arises in their own lives from such memories is the observable influence of the now dead person.
But the dead also touch us more mysteriously, as in the next example. Example: In a recent news programme on television, a man who survived a Japanese prisoner of war camp in Singapore had been given a photograph of children by a dying soldier he did not know.
The man had asked him to tell his family of his death, but did not give his name.
The photograph was kept for 40 odd years, the man still wanting to complete his promise but not knowing how. One night he dreamt he was told the man’s name. Enquiries soon found the family of the man, who had an identical photograph. See husband under family. ... A Guide to Dreams and Sleep Experiences
Breast Feeding : If a person sees himself breast feeding or being breast fed, he will soon be imprisoned and the prison doors will be closed on him for a long time.
And Allah knows best.... Islamic Dream Interpretation
A woman is the intuitive, creative part of self. Whatever qualities, characteristics, and lessons that you associate with that person you may be learning about again. Pay attention.... The Dream Books Symbols
If he mistreats and upbraids you for unfaithfulness, you will hold his regard and confidence, but other worries will ensue and you are warned to be more discreet in receiving attention from men.
If you see him dead, disappointment and sorrow will envelop you.
To see him pale and careworn, sickness will tax you heavily, as some of the family will linger in bed for a time.
To see him gay and handsome, your home will be filled with happiness and bright prospects will be yours.
If he is sick, you will be mistreated by him and he will be unfaithful.
To dream that he is in love with another woman, he will soon tire of his present surroundings and seek pleasure elsewhere.
To be in love with another woman’s husband in your dreams, denotes that you are not happily married, or that you are not happy unmarried, but the chances for happiness are doubtful.
For an unmarried woman to dream that she has a husband, denotes that she is wanting in the graces which men most admire.
To see your husband depart from you, and as he recedes from you he grows larger, inharmonious surroundings will prevent immediate congeniality.
If disagreeable conclusions are avoided, harmony will be reinstated.
For a woman to dream she sees her husband in a compromising position with an unsuspected party, denotes she will have trouble through the indiscretion of friends.
If she dreams that he is killed while with another woman, and a scandal ensues, she will be in danger of separating from her husband or losing property. Unfavorable conditions follow this dream, though the evil is often exaggerated. ... Ten Thousand Dream Interpretation
A boss, partner, etc.; See “marry”... Dream Dictionary Unlimited
2. Unconscious feelings toward actual husband.
3. The “fertility” of ideas and creativity. ... New American Dream Dictionary
Example: ‘My recurring dream—some disaster is happening. I try to contact the police or my husband. Can never contact either. I try ringing 999 again and again and can feel terror, and sometimes dreadful anger or complete panic. I cry, I scream and shout and never get through! Recently I have stopped trying to contact my husband. I managed once to reach him but he said he was too busy and I would have to deal with it myself. I woke in a furious temper with him and kicked him while he was still asleep’ (Mrs GS).
The husband here depicts Mrs S’s feelings of not being able to get through’ to her man. This is a common female dream theme, possibly arising from the husband not daring to express emotion or meet his panner with his own feelings.
For Mrs S this is an emergency. Although the dream dramatises it, there is still real frustration, anger, and a break in marital communications.
Example: There were three of us. My husband, a male friend and 1, all nding small white enamel bikes. My husband proceeded slowly, first, with his back to us. Then my friend followed. Suddenly my friend ahead of me turned and gazed fully at me. He gave a glonous smile which lit up the whole of his face. I felt a great sense of well-being surge through me’ (Joan B).
The triangle: the example shows typical flow of feeling towards another male.
The other male here depicts
Joan’s desire to be attractive to other men. This is a danger signal unless one fully acknowledges ihe impulse.
Example: ‘I was with my husband and our three children. About 2 or 3 yards to our right stood my husband’s first wife —she died about a year before I first met him. I remember feeling she no longer minded me being with him, so I put my arms around him from the back, and felt more secure and comfortable with him’ (Mrs NS).
The first wife: the dreamer is now feeling easier about her husband’s first relationship.
The first wife represents her sense of competing for her husband’s affections, even though his ‘first woman’ was dead.
Example: ‘My dead husband came into my bedroom and got into bed with me to make love to me. I was not afraid. But owing to his sexual appetites during my married life with him I was horrified, and resisted him with all my might. On waking I felt weak and exhausted.
The last time he came to me I responded to him and he never came back again. This happened three times.
The last time I don’t think it was a dream. I was not asleep. I think it was his ghost’ (GL). Dead husband: in any experience of an apparently psychic nature, we must always remember the unconscious is a great dramatist. It can create the drama of a dream in moments. In doing so it makes our inner feelings into apparently real people and objects outside us. While asleep we lightly dismiss this amazing process as a dream’. When it happens while our eyes are open or we are near waking, for some reason we call it a ghost or psychic event. Yet the dream process is obviously capable of creating total body sensations, emotions, full visual impressions, vocalisation—what else is a dream? On the other hand, the dream process is not dealing in pointless imaginations. Many women tend to believe they have little sexual drive, so it is easier for GL to see her drive in the form of her husband. But of course, her husband may also depict how she felt about sex in connection with his ‘sexual appetites’.
It is a general rule, however, that our dream process will dramatise into a past life, or a psychic’ experience, emotions linked with trauma or sexual drive which we find difficult to meet in the present.
Example: ‘I dreamt many times I lost my husband, such as not being able to find the car park where he was waiting, and seeing him go off in the distance. I wake in a panic to find him next to me in bed. These dreams persisted, and then he died quite suddenly. He was perfectly healthy at the time of the dreams and I wonder if it was a premonition of me really losing him’ (Mrs AD). Cannot find husband: many middle aged women dream of ‘losing’ their husband while out with him, perhaps shopping, or walking in a town somewhere. Sometimes the dream ponrays him actually killed. Mrs AD wonders if her dream was a premonition.
It is more likely a form of practising the loss, so it does not come as such a shock.
The greatest shocks occur when we have never even considered the event—such as a young child losing its mother, an event it has never practised, not even in fantasy, so has no inbuilt shock absorbers. As most of us know, men tend to die before women, and this information is in the mind of middle-aged married women. Mrs AD may have unconsciously observed slight changes in her husband’s body and behaviour, and therefore readied herself.
Other woman’s husband: one’s own husband, feelings about that man, desire for a non-committed relationship with less responsibility. ... A Guide to Dreams and Sleep Experiences
To dream of having a husband when you are single points to relationships in general. Most girls look for their father’s personality or traits while choosing their life partners. Those traits often represent the male side of a girl’s character. All this is represented when a girl dreams of a husband with all those traits she admires or dreads.... Dream Symbols and Analysis
If you are an unmarried man dreaming of being a husband, then you are processing your aspirations/hopes/fears of one day being married.
If you are a married man, then this dream can represent your assimilation of the pressure of being the breadwinner.
If you are a married woman, this can also be your assimilation of your idealized husband versus the day to day reality, expectations and demands that you have of your actual husband.
If you are an unmarried woman, this dream may be your hope, fantasy, or “dream” of what your future husband will be.... Strangest Dream Explanations
If you fall in love with another woman’s husband, it indicates that you are growing vicious. ... Indian Interpretation of Dreams
If you dream of your real-life husband, your dream represents your emotions around this relationship. Look up other symbols, or feelings you had, in the dream for further meaning.... My Dream Interpretation
If you dreamed of being married when- you aren’t it signifies a serious lovers’ quarrel and/or a broken relationship.... The Complete Guide to Interpreting Your Dreams
If doubts about validity and intimacy are not properly resolved in her waking life, they will appear in dreams about the loss or death of her husband. They may also be projected onto other women’s husbands in dreams.
If your husband goes missing in your dream or you can’t find him while out with him, your unconscious may be referring to the well-known statistic that most men die before women.
If your husband is dead in both your dream and in your waking life, this refers to the memories you have shared with him.
If another woman’s husband appears, this may refer to a desire for a relationship outside your current one.
If you are having sex with your husband in your dream, this can be a wonderful indicator of how you are feeling about your sexual and emotional relationship with him.
If your first husband appears in your dreams, this represents nostalgia for the past, or more obliquely, competition for your current husband. See also Gay relationships in RELATIONSHIPS.... The Element Encyclopedia
If her doubts and fears about validity are not properly expressed, they will surface in dreams about the loss, or death, of her husband. Such fears may also be projected onto other women’s husbands, almost as though her own husband is too close to her.... Dream Meanings of Versatile
2. Change toward the progressive.
3. Repressed thoughts or emotions; passivity.
4. Prosperity (left-handed writing). ... New American Dream Dictionary
Depth Psychology: Left: be cautious because it is the dark and mysterious side.
The “road to the left” is always dangerous, because left stands for the unconscious, destructive, and irrational within us.
Dreaming of being paralyzed on the left side says you are operating too much from intellect and reason and that you should try to strengthen your emotional, intuitive side. See... Dreamers Dictionary
The left also symbolizes compassion, democracy, liberal politics, and creative solutions.... Strangest Dream Explanations
The left side is supportive in expression, and receptive by nature, so anything appearing in dreams on the left side can be accepted as a symbol of support. Any pain experienced on the left side is interpreted in terms of sensitivity.
The left expresses the more feminine attributes and often the past. Any conflict between right and left indicates the differences between logic and intuition. Indecision over left or right suggests an inability to decide whether to rely on drive or instinct. Feelings of being left behind suggest a sense of inadequacy, of disintegration and of having to leave the past behind.... Dream Meanings of Versatile
If you are a right-handed person but you dream of being left-handed, you may face an awkward personal situation or a dangerous rival.
If you actually are left-handed, the dream is a good omen of better luck ahead. Dreams that strongly feature your left hand (using it or looking at it) predict frustrations and minor difficulties.... My Dream Interpretation
The left side of the body represents heart, emotions, unconscious factors, intuition. Movement from right to left, or anticlockwise, symbolizes moving over from reason to intuition, from conscious to unconscious, etc. (Movement to the left is contrary’ to the way of the sun, which is a symbol of consciousness.)... A Dictionary of Dream Symbols
An ancient belief says that the Devil appears to the left of people to tempt them.... The Big Dictionary of Dreams
If this is the case, bear in mind that if you are right-handed, the right hemisphere of the brain is thought to control the left side of the body and this part of the brain is instinctive, artistic and intuitive. The left side of the body therefore indicates these qualities and in dreams represents the parts of yourself that are less expressed, such as the unconscious. In right-handed people, the left hemisphere of the brain is thought to control the right side of the body, and this part of the brain is believed to be logical and functional. The right side of the body therefore represents the dominant, conscious and well-expressed side of yourself. Dreams can also use a play on what is right or left to suggest opposites or conflicts within yourself. The left usually suggests the external world of activity and the environment, whilst the right parts of your unconscious suggest struggling to express yourself. A few people might also find that in some dreams one side of their body represent the feelings and attitudes they absorbed from their mother, and the other side what they absorbed from their father.... The Element Encyclopedia
A group of friends I was with had gone ahead, left me behind, and I wondered if I would ever catch up’ (Patience C). Oneself left behind: feelings of rejection or inadequacy; sense of waking up to what you have not done or experienced in life, as Patience does in her dream. Leaving something, someone behind: leaving the past behind, breakup of relationship. Idioms: fall behind; put it all behind me. See also bag. ... A Guide to Dreams and Sleep Experiences
if we are right handed, the left represents the less dominant or expressed side of oneself, or the parts of our nature we try to hide or suppress.
If we write or knock in a nail using our right hand, we will hold the paper or nail with our left. So left leg or arm frequently has this sense of representing the supponive but less dominant functions in us. Our confidence may suppon our activity as a salesperson, so may be depicted as being on the left.
the dominant, confident, conscious, exterior or expressed side of self; lightness; correct social behaviour, moral.
Dreams can also use a play on what is right and left to illustrate a polarity or opposites. Our internal world of feelings, memories and values—the left; our external world of activity and environment—the right.
A secondary choice— left; the right’ choice at the time—right. Pans of self unconscious or shadowy—left; our conscious known self—right.
The immoral, selfish, wrong action—left; the moral, right action—right.
Example: ‘On my right are three monks, on my left sits a beautiful, shapely blonde. I am in the centre and I see a road, which leads to the right and a beautiful sunlit valley in the distance’ (from Dreams Your Magic Mirror by Elsie Sechrist). Here right and left represent not only choice between sexual pleasure and religious discipline, but also the polar opposites of spiritual and material. Although in the dream there is a movement to the right, to find equilibrium we often have to take a way between the opposites.
Idioms: two left feet; keep on the right side of somebody; in one’s right mind, in the right; mister right; set somebody right; right hand man; right in the head, stan on the right foot; give one’s right arm. ... A Guide to Dreams and Sleep Experiences
To dream of seeing a left-handed pitcher or batter in a baseball game portends a successful business deal.
To dream of a right-handed person trying to write with the left hand, or vice-versa, is very lucky in its augury.... The Complete Dream Book
If you are saving something because you are afraid of running out of what you need, then this dream is helping you release scarcity consciousness.... Strangest Dream Explanations
For a young woman to dream of such a person, foretells that distress and calumny will attend her.... Ten Thousand Dream Interpretation
2. One wants to become pregnant. ... New American Dream Dictionary
(Also see Dromedary rider)... Islamic Dream Interpretation
A new phase in your life.
A new idea or new behavior needs help in order to be accepted.... Little Giant Encyclopedia
It is death to the sick, for she always pulleth out that which is contained from her which containeth it, and iayeth it on the ground.
To those which are kept by force.
To dream of a midwife signifies liberty.
If a woman that is not with child drcameth of seeing her, it fore-showeth she will have a fit of sickness, of long continuance.... The Complete Dream Book
Depth Psychology: The midwife stands for needing help in the Birth of a new idea.... Dreamers Dictionary
(2) Right / left may also symbolize intellect / intuition or thought / feeling; masculinc / fcminine; activity and assertiveness / passivity and receptiveness.... A Dictionary of Dream Symbols
If the needle happens to break, his affairs will be disrupted and he will become needy and poor.... Islamic Dream Interpretation
If the left one is ripped or missing, it means no sons will be born to him.... Islamic Dream Interpretation
To dream that your wife is unusually affable, denotes that you will receive profit from some important venture in trade.
For a wife to dream her husband whips her, foretells unlucky influences will cause harsh criticism in the home and a general turmoil will ensue. ... Ten Thousand Dream Interpretation
2. Indication that one’s relationship is troublesome. ... New American Dream Dictionary
(Also see Climbing a mountain; Closet; Hide-out; Kh.imiir; Marriage; Protection; Veil)... Islamic Dream Interpretation
A man who dreams that his wife is more than ordinarily affable is likely to profit Largely from an Important commercial undertaking.... The Complete Dream Book
A dream of someone else - such as a boyfriend or crush - having a wife, suggests that you are unconfident about your abilities to hold someone’s attention.
If you dreamed of being a wife, or getting married, look up “Marriage” or “Wedding”.... My Dream Interpretation
(2) Even so, bear in mind that the way you relate to your wife (in the dream or in reality) may contain elements of your relation with your mother or your anima. (For anima, see Brother / Sister, sections
(3) Seeing a deceased wife is common. Try to feel her - and your love for her - within yourself, rather than as an external presence.... A Dictionary of Dream Symbols
Dreaming of a single man walking next to a woman claiming to be his wife predicts unexpected news.... The Big Dictionary of Dreams
If you find yourself in a love triangle in your dream this indicates a difficult conflict of interests and shifting feelings within a relationship.
If your first wife appears in your dreams this represents the past; competition for the second wife.
If a widow appears in your dreams, this represents fears about the break-up of your relationship, or even the desire to break a relationship. It can also suggest feelings of loneliness or loss.
If you are a married woman dreaming about being a widow, this indicates fears about losing your husband or a desire to be free of him. Unmarried women dreaming of, or meeting, a widow might indicate anxieties about a relationship or the prospect of one. See also Gay relationships in RELATIONSHIPS.... The Element Encyclopedia
Dreaming of a partner sometimes signifies the part of our personality that we cannot quite make full use of without help.
A man will often attempt to prove himself a good husband through his dreams. He may experience in dreams the potential loss and death of his partner with the same intensity as he experienced the first ‘loss’ of his mother.... Dream Meanings of Versatile
The same dream could mean that either she will benefit from the good qualities of her husband or he will benefit from her good qualities.... Islamic Dream Interpretation