2. Sexual repression, difﬁculties with sexual expression.
3. A need or desire to address either masculine or feminine aspects of self or integrate them. ... New American Dream Dictionary
If the former is the case, it may be obvious to you: recent encounters with your brother or sister, or some piece of news about him or her may be recognized as prompting the dream. Always be on the look-out, though, for those dreams where a brother or sister plavs a symbolic role. The dream source may choose its materials - its images - from your recent external experiences, but what those dream images represent is nearly always some part of yourself. So please read on.
(2) In early childhood a brother or sister is a natural object of jealousy and hatred. In the eyes of a small child the mother may seem to be favouring his or her sibling. When a second child is bom, the firstborn is especially likely to develop hostile feelings towards the new’ rival for mother’s attention and affection. Sometimes w’e carrv such jealous grievances (at an unconscious level) into adult life, w’here they continue to affect our behaviour and attitudes.
It is then imperative that w’e sort them out, face up to them, acknowledge them for w’hat they are, and so liberate ourselves from their damaging influence (see (3) below, second paragraph, on projections).
(3) An elder brother or sister (brother for a male dreamer, sister for a female dreamer) may represent your ‘other self (‘alter ego’), that side of your personality that has so far been neglected and undeveloped. Jung called it ‘the Shadow’’. We start adult life w’ith a self-image that is usually some sort of compromise between what w’e w’ant to be or do and w’hat parents or society at large seems to require of us.
If this self-image corresponds to our actual abilities, all may be well for a while; but a time mav come w hen wre need to give attention to other facets of our (potential) self. These other facets - our Shadow- - will show- themselves to us in dreams; and one form they take in dreams is that of an elder brother or sister.
People often project their shadow- on to a sibling of the same sex as themselves; and if it is not projected, it may express itself in all kinds of aw kward and embarrassing ways - astonishing rudeness, for example, or other antisocial behaviour. The contrast between your conscious ego and your alter ego mav be as startling as that between Jekvll and Hyde. Don’t be alarmed, though: remember alw-ays that your unconscious is vour ally - vour best friend - and even the most frightening or appalling things that reveal themselves in dreams as parts of vour unconscious are frightening or appalling, first, because of their unfamiliaritv and / or secondly, because, having been neglected and locked away in the dark, they tend to behave like a neglected child and mav become mutinous (on this phenomenon, see Demon). Pay proper attention and proper respect to them, and their threatening features will disappear; they will prove themselves valuable supplements to vour personal equipment for coping with life and achieving full satisfaction and wholeness. Introduce them into your consciousness, identify them and their needs, and give them a controlled and appropriate part to play in your waking life.
Incidentally, one test you can apply to check whether you have a neglected shadow-self is to ask yourself if there is some characteristic that you particularly dislike in other people (particularly your partner): a domineering tendency’, perhaps, or an over-liberal attitude, or whatever.
If there is (and of course you need a lot of honesty’ to admit this), then that characteristic is likely to belong to your shadow-self. We tend to project on to other people the dark, ‘nasty5 things that live in our own unconscious.
If something is going wrong in our life, we tend to put the blame on to other people, the government, or our parents; we look for some scapegoat to carry the blame. The blame, how ever, is ours, because we have not put our own house in order: we have not paid due attention to the demands of our unconscious and have not allowed our ‘other self proper scope for expression in our life.
(4) When a female dreams of a brother, or a male dreams of a sister, the brother / sister may represent w’hat Jung called the ‘soul-image’, w’hich is the masculine side of a woman’s personality (her animus) or the feminine side of a man’s personality (his anima). There would seem to be very basic differences between man and woman arising out of different biological functions (as well as less basic differences that owe their existence to social conditioning). There are w’hat have traditionally been called feminine qualities and capacities (such as gentleness, a caring disposition, creativeness, cooperativencss and relatedness, intuition) and, similarly, what have been called masculine qualities (such as aggressiveness and competitiveness, rationality’, and a tendency to analyse and look for differences). However, it is widclv accepted nowadays among psychotherapists that the male psyche also contains feminine qualities and the female psyche also contains masculine qualities, albeit often dormant and neglected, or repressed.
If you arc a man, do you admire the ‘masculine’ tv pc of woman? If vou do, vou may be in need of redressing the balance in vour psyche: vour feminine side
has possibly swamped your masculinity, and you now need to promote the latter. In your case, the anima will be rather masculine. This is just one instance of a general rule: the animus / anima will have the opposite characteristics to the conscious self-image.
Either male or female dreamers may find themselves in a dream in an heroic relationship to an anima / animus figure. A man may, in a dream, rescue a damsel in distress; a woman may waken a dead prince with a kiss. These should be seen as invitations to incorporate your anima / animus into vour conscious functioning, to rescue it from oblivion and neglect: to make Cinderella or the Frog-Prince your partner in life. Personal wholeness cannot be achieved without this. See also Cinderella, Frog, section (3), Marriage.
(5) A sister in a man’s dream or a brother in a woman’s dream may take the dreamer into some frightening abyss, to the bottom of the sea, or into a dark forest. This may represent the man’s anima or the woman’s animus leading the ego into the unconscious, to discover, for example, the deep emotional causes of a psychosomatic illness; the repressed rage that lies at the bottom of a chronic boredom; or the fount of energy or wisdom that can furnish a more fully satisfying existence. Literary and mythological representations of this can be found in the examples of Beatrice, who led Dante safely into hell and out again, and Ariadne, whose thread enabled Theseus to find his way out of the Cretan labyrinth after slaying the Minotaur. Both hell and labyrinths are symbols of the unconscious. See also Labyrinth, Monster, Underworld.
(6) Sometimes the anima / animus figure in a dream may appear in some way hostile or threatening. For example, in a man’s dream the anima may take the form of an enchantress, a femme fatale, seducing men into a lake or ocean. The watery depths may be seen as symbolizing the depths of the unconscious. The meaning of such a dream may be that the dreamer needs to explore his other - unconscious - self, despite (or, more accurately, because of) its frightening and threatening aspect. Water, however, is a symbol of the feminine, too. The meaning of the dream, therefore, might be that die dreamer is too heavily fixated on his mother and needs to liberate himself by asserting his masculinity and independence; in extreme cases the man might be in danger of being “possessed’ or ‘swallowed up’ by the feminine within his psyche. Such a dream may be, however, not a warning, but an invitation: the unconscious may be urging the man to get on better terms - equal terms - with the feminine side of his psyche. Give your anima / animus equality, and it will cease from its mutinous attempts to take over the whole of your psyche.
In the case of a woman, a dream may contain a male seducer: some Pied Piper animus figure. Again, the dreamer will have to decide whether such a dream is a warning or an invitation: a warning against being carried away by her masculinity (perhaps she has not resolved her early father fixation), or an invitation to discover and utilize her neglected masculinity. Commonsense and, above all, honesty should guide her to the correct understanding of the dream; and in any case, bear in mind what was said above about giving equality to the anima / animus.
(7) The unconscious compensates the conscious mind. It contains those qualities and capacities which the conscious mind lacks. In this sense it is the opposite of the conscious mind; hence its otherness, its alien appearance.
It follows, therefore, that the image that represents anima or animus in a dream may be the opposite of the psychological type to which the dreamer belongs. For example, if you are a woman of the intellectual type (i.e. if thinking is your strong point at the conscious level), your animus may be represented in dreams as a sentimental type (a romantic Don Juan, for instance).
If you are a sentimental woman (moved at the conscious level mainly by feelings - including moral feelings), your animus may show itself as a bearded professor or other intellectual figure.
If you are an intuitive woman (an artist, for instance), your animus mav take a muscular he-man form in dreams (the sensational type, functioning most strongly at the sensory level).
(8) If brother and sister appear together in a dream, this may symbolize either the tension of opposites, or the union of opposites. The opposites are the conscious and the unconscious contents of the psyche. Their union and interfusion are the means by which the self- the true self that is already within you but waits to be unfolded - is realized.
The appearance of this symbol will usually be an auspicious sign, meaning that, despite all appearances to the contrary, there is within you a latent and attainable order and harmony. But of course you - the conscious ego - must make that latent order real by paying loving attention to the needs of your unconscious opposite (like the prince who wakes the sleeping beauty with an embrace).... A Dictionary of Dream Symbols
If a woman dreams of a younger brother, it can express either her own or her brother’s rivalry or vulnerability, but if she dreams of an older brother, it might signify her extrovert self.
The sister in dreams usually represents the feeling, expressive side of your personality and you can make contact with that side of yourself by understanding your sister’s personality.
If a man dreams of older sisters, it can represent anxiety but also caring.
If the sister is younger, however, she can symbolize the vulnerable side of the male dreamer.
If a woman dreams of younger sisters, it can suggest rivalry, but if she dreams of older sisters, she may be concerned about her own practicality.... The Element Encyclopedia
To dream of an affectionate correspondence with one’s cousin, denotes a fatal rupture between families. ... Ten Thousand Dream Interpretation
See also Relatives.... The Complete Guide to Interpreting Your Dreams
If you dream that your cousin is ignoring you, this implies that you are not recognizing the attribute that is being referred to.
To dream that you or your sibling is in love with a cousin indicates that you recognize and understand the attributes that each of you possess.... Dream Symbols and Analysis
Purses, according to Freud, are symbols of female genitalia or the womb; when the purse opens, this suggests sexual availability and when it is snapped shut, this suggests withholding.... The Element Encyclopedia
It is not unusual for heterosexual men and women to have dreams about gay sex, and such dreams are not necessarily related to sexuality or the waking-life expression of it. However, if the dreamer identifies as a gay man, then such dreams should be explored more literally.... Complete Dictionary of Dreams
If this is the case, your dream may have been fulfilling your unconscious fantasies and was encouraging you to be honest with yourself. Many psychologists believe that we are all bisexual at a deep level; a dream like this may have given you the opportunity to explore in a safe environment an experience that your conscious mind finds objectionable due to social conditioning. If, however, you are convinced you are not gay or lesbian, your dream may simply have highlighted the intimate nature of your friendships with people of the same sex or your desire to meet someone similar to yourself. Your unconscious may also have been highlighting the fact that if you are in a relationship, you sometimes you feel closer to your friends than you do to your partner.
If you are homophobic in waking life or in your dream, your unconscious may have been urging you to be more open-minded.
If you are gay and dream of making love to a person of the same sex, this will have much the same interpretation as dreams concerning heterosexual sex and partnerships.
If you are gay and have dreams of heterosexual sex, your unconscious may be highlighting unconscious attractions or emphasizing the closeness of your emotional bonds with friends of the opposite sex.... The Element Encyclopedia
2. Attraction to member of the same sex—usually emotionally, sometimes physically.
3. Anxieties regarding own sexuality (if afraid).
4. Prosperity. ... New American Dream Dictionary
To dream of being homosexual indicates feelings of uneasiness. It connotes doubt and worries towards your relationships with the opposite sex.
If you’re actually homosexual then your true nature is expressing itself through the dream.... Dream Symbols and Analysis
If in your dream you hate the idea of homosexuality, then it represents your fears and rejection of parts of your own femininity and sexuality.
If you are gay in real life, then the dream is simply a reflection of your own self.
If you dream that your real-life boyfriend or husband is gay, you could be feeling rejected by him in real life, either because he is physically cold or you sense he is keeping some of his emotions secret from you. Your subconscious mind might be telling you that he’s keeping a secret from you in some way. Or, you could just be feeling insecure about the strength and nature of the relationship. Communication is key to finding out what’s really going on.... My Dream Interpretation
If making love with particular individual, may be merger within self of attributes associated with other person. Attitudes toward own sexuality. See Sexual Intercourse.... The Dream Books Symbols
If you are homosexual, dreams regarding this particular sexual orientation are not atypical. They are simply the extension of your thoughts and feelings in the form that is the most familiar and meaningful to you.
If a heterosexual person is having a homosexual dream, it may have a variety of connotations.
The interpretation of this dream, as with all others, is very personal and generalizations are difficult to make. This dream may be about loving yourself, especially if the other individual in your dream is a stranger.
The dream may be about integrating ideas and attitudes, and in a few, rare cases may be about sexual orientation. Sexual dreams are either wish-fulfilling, compensatory, or non-sexual, but rather are about issues mentioned above. See also: Sex, Intercourse... The Bedside Dream Dictionary
1- Dreaming of having intercourse with somebody of the same sex as oneself usually indicates a conflict or anxiety about otir own gender. We may find ourselves attracted to someone of the same sex in dreams because we are looking for parental love. We may also be looking for love of a different sort a nurturing rather than sexual love.
2- Very often, to dream of a homosexual affair is an attempt to come to terms with opposite aspects of oneself.
It is understanding that, through the integration of a part of ourselves, we are making ourselves more whole and therefore more able to go onto successful relationships of any sort.
3- Unification on an internal level is a sign of spiritual maturity.... Ten Thousand Dream Dictionary
An intimate exploration of the masculine or feminine nature, depending on which gender is seen in the dream (see Men, Women).
The need to focus on your own gender for a while to achieve greater understanding, “brotherhood” or “sisterhood,” and empowerment from same.... The Language of Dreams
For some people it shows an inherent reluctance to relate fully to the opposite sex either through some trauma or fear.... Dream Meanings of Versatile
If we can identify similarities with the dream character that are not purely sexual, the dream can be fully interpreted.... Dream Meanings of Versatile
If characters within your dream are known to be homosexual, you must interpret them as aspects of your own personality that are aligning you in either the direction of a need to be more or to do more, or to bridge the gap between the two with a higher level of intuitive grace.
If you are made uncomfortable by the content of the dream, you may want to consider ways in which you are having anxiety about your own masculinity or femininity in a way that may or may not be sexual in nature.... Complete Dictionary of Dreams
Dreaming of sex with another woman is often reported by women during pregnancy.
If the dreamer identifies as a lesbian, then such dreams should be explored through the concepts outlined in the terms Sex and Intercourse. Watching lesbian sex is a waking-life fantasy for many heterosexual men. However, this image has more to do with integration of inner aspects of the feminine principle for a man when such a dream appears.
It is a natural process of evolution for every man as he matures through life to become more in touch with his feminine nature.
A truly integrated man has access to his own creativity, receptivity, nurturing qualities, and sensitivity.... Complete Dictionary of Dreams
A cigar or cigarette can symbolize a penis; even Freud admitted that his passion for cigar smoking was a substitute for masturbation, although he did once joke that a cigar is sometimes just a cigar. Cars can represent the penis—especially if the car has a powerful, thrusting motor. A weathercock in a woman’s dream is thought to be an especially powerful sexual symbol.
Darts, fingers, snakes, guns, hammers, screwdrivers, horns, icicles, javelins, spheres, engines, lorries and poles are all phallic symbols, as are spires and towers standing tall.
Quills and pens are obvious Freudian symbols, especially if they are dipped in ink. Jungians suggest that the quill can represent the archetype of the animus, the male aspect of the female psyche. Cell phones can be interpreted as phallic dream symbols as they often take the place of a loved one and can evoke sexual yearning or stand for the act of masturbation. The image may also represent frustrating attempts at sexual intimacy.
Drinking from a cup, glass or horn can represent oral sex with a woman. Socks or other items of clothing which fit the body part snugly are often interpreted as symbols of female genitalia; such items may stand for the act of intercourse if they are being put on or off. Gloves and shoes are other common images of this type. Shoes can also suggest authority and sexual domination.... The Element Encyclopedia
If his relationship with them was estranged, it will be re-established.... Islamic Dream Interpretation
It is a representation of your artistic vigor, and reaffirms that you are taking the correct path in life.
The dream may also be a retort on discussions about sex. You may have to articulate your sexual wishes and desires to your lover.
It is also possible that your dream of oral sex is an actual manifestation of your sexual fantasies.
A dream about you performing oral sex on yourself symbolizes a yearning for self-satisfaction.... Dream Symbols and Analysis
The oral aspect of this particular act indicates that communication is the area you are investigating.
If you are orally pleasuring a penis, you may be appreciating and experiencing a need to take more aggressive power into your speech. To be orally pleasuring a woman’s genitalia means that the receptive, sensitive, or creative elements of your personality want to be recognized and embraced.
The active position indicates a higher level of urgency than if you are the recipient.
If taking on new ways of communicating can be seen as an ongoing process, receiving oral pleasure connects more to the beginning of that process, while giving it might be associated with the end.
The object of your affection will give you a great deal of clarity on the matter at hand. This is where many people are disturbed or even horrified by sexual content, for many dreams have us partnering with people from our life with whom we would not ordinarily have sex. However, to the unconscious mind, sex is a symbolic expression of union and has none of the societal or personal stigma we may attach to it.
If the person is known to you, use his or her character aspects to indicate what qualities you are integrating into your communication.
If the person is a stranger, use whatever information you can recall from the dream to inform your investigation.... Complete Dictionary of Dreams
2. Desire for uninhibited or forbidden sex. ... New American Dream Dictionary
Horses, especially stallions, may be a symbol of sexuality and mounting a horse represents intercourse. Spectacular explosions are associated with orgasm. In the form of fireworks this suggests exhilaration but destructive explosions can express the desire to dominate. Water gushing from a tap, champagne spraying white foam or cascading waterfalls are also orgasmic symbols.
Dream analysts have noticed an association in women’s dreams between dreams of a plane crash and rape or fear of it. Freudians would interpret a man’s dream of a plane crash as fear of impotence. Churches with a steeple and an arched portal combine male and female symbolism and such an image may express conflict between sexual expression and moral responsibility.
Dreams in which you become invisible may simply indicate that you feel unnoticed by those around you, but they may also suggest an element of sexual voyeurism.
Disturbing Sexual Dreams... The Element Encyclopedia
A new business partnership; see “baby”; of no connotation with “sensual”... Dream Dictionary Unlimited
It is so complex that interpretations vary with each dreamer and situation in the dream.
A sexual dream may be about physical pleasure, but it may also be about power, control, manipulation, virility, and effectiveness. It may be a form of wish fulfillment or a memory, or compensation for a lack in daily life. In most cases, it is not a prediction of things to come in the near future.
For some more clues, also see Intercourse and People.... The Bedside Dream Dictionary
Example: My lover was standing behind me, and John, my husband, was standing in front of me. I was asking John to have sex with me and at the same time thinking, “Oh, hell, if he does he will think we have something going between us.” I felt no flow towards John but felt somehow I was trying to tell my lover that I was desirable’ (Sally A). Sally’s dream needs no interpretation. Such clear dreams show that Sally is ready to be directly aware of what she is doing in her relationships.
If the sex in the dream is deeply symbolised, it suggests the dreamer is less willing to be aware of their motivations or connected painful feelings. Even though Sally’s dream was clear, it was still dealing with an area of her sexuality she was not clearly conscious of.
If she had been aware, it is doubtful whether she would have dreamt it.
Example: ‘I was in a farmyard.
A small boy climbed all over the bull. It became terribly angry. It had been chained without attention too long. Now it tore away and sought the cows.
The gates were closed, but the bull smashed through the enclosing fence. I rushed to the fence and sat astride it, but on seeing that the bull smashed it like match wood, I looked around for some safe place.
The bull charged the first cow to mount it, but so terrible was its energy and emotion that it could not express as sex. It smashed the cow aside as it had done the fence. Then it rushed the next and tossed it over its head, charging and smashing the next. I climbed into somebody’s garden, trying to get out of the district’ (Arthur J). Although this dream depicts Arthur’s chained’ sexual drive using the bull, it is still fairly obvious.
If we consider the setting and plot of the dream, as suggested above, we see that Arthur is desperately trying to avoid responsibility for, or trying to escape, his own sexual drive—figuratively ‘sitting on the fence’.
Example: ‘My husband and I were walking down a road. We were going in the same direction together. I started to sing with a very happy feeling but then felt I should stop because he would say the happiness was because I had had sex. I sensed he knew what I was thinking as I walked along. He then quietly began to sing and the dream ended with me smiling to myself. We had sexual cut off for four weeks but had made love that afternoon’ (Joan W). In talking about this dream Joan said she felt it slightly embarrassing to admit that sex gave her feelings of happiness. She liked to believe she was perfectly happy without it.
It is probably out of the slight conflict between her conscious attitude and her feeling of well-being after sex that the dream was produced. See animals; adolescent; affair; devil, Christ, Shadow under archetypes; bag; banana; bed; example in bite; black person; breasts and penis under body; bud; candle; cane; castration; ceremony, ritual; clothes; compensatory theory; cuckoo; cup; dam; dance; third example in danger; defence mechanisms; dragon; drum; emotions, mood; ejaculation; second example under evil; founh example under husband in family; feelings; homosexuality; horns; hostility; example in door under house, buildings; hypnosis and dreams; insects; jungle; kiss, left, right; lift; second example under light; man; masturbation; mirror; murder; nest; oval; pole; prostitute; purse; rape; refrigerate; religion and dreams; first example under reptiles; sadism; sex while asleep; wordplay, puns. ... A Guide to Dreams and Sleep Experiences
It is at this point that lie or she learns about touch, whether il is nice to touch or be touched, and even if touch is permissible. If, for instance, the child is handled roughly, there may be a fear of being touched, which may later manifest as a sexual difficulty.
While the original trauma may be suppressed, it will often surface in dreams when the time is appropriate. Real growth takes place when the individual is not afraid of the curiosity which allows an innocent exploration of his own body. Dreams will often allow us to explore this physicality in a safe way.
2- Dreams highlight the whole range of the individual’s sexuality. Only if lie ignores his own sexual nature and fails to appreciate his own life force do the negative aspects make themselves obvious in dreams. This is a natural attempt to balance the waking state which may have been over-intcllectu- aliscd, or over-dramatised. Contact with others then bcconies necessary; and often this need will make itself apparent in dreams. Various aspects of sex and sexuality can be interpreted as follows: Bisexuality Within ourselves we hold both masculine and feminine potentials. One is more overt than the other and there is often conflict between the inner and the outer. This can sometimes show itself in dreams as bisexuality and a need for some kind of union with members of both sexes. Castration in a dream suggests fear of loss of masculinity and sexual power.
Clothes in sexual dreams can have particular relevance often to do with the dreamer’s perception of him or herself: being fully clothed would suggest some feeling of .guilt.
Contraception Dreaming of contraception can indicate a fear of pregnancy and birth. Ejaculation/Emission The images in a dream prior to orgasm can suggest the nature of the dreamer’s attitude to sex and sexuality.
The conflicts which arise in the dreamer because of his sexual desire for someone can be dealt with in the dream state through dreaming of emission or orgasm. Fetishes Fetishes arc a fixation 011 an external object without which there can be 110 sexual act. This is a little akin to a child not being able to go to sleep without his comforter. There is some evidence for the belief that, at an unconscious level, man would prefer a life of celibacy and, by projecting his energies onto an object, he abdicates responsibility. In dreams, therefore, a fetish can highlight fear, immaturity and lack of capability. Hermaphrodite (also see Individual Entry) Dreaming of a hermaphrodite (someone who is both masculine and feminine) suggests either bisexuality, which is an erotic attraction to both sexes, or androgy ny the perfect balance within one person of the masculine and feminine qualities. Homosexuality is taken to mean the desire for sex with a partner who is the same sex. More properly, it is a desire for someone who is the same as oneself.
It is this aspect that comes across in dreams.
If the dreamer can identify what is similar to himself or herself in ways that arc not purely sexual, the dream can be fully interpreted. Incest (also see individual entry) in a dream usually characterises the need for expressed love that is, love expressed in a more tactilc way. In dreams incest can highlight guilty feelings about one’s parents or members of the family. Intercourse (or petting) The wish or need to be able to communicate with someone on a very intimate level can translate itself into intercourse in a dream.
If intercourse is interrupted the dreamer may have inhibitions of which he or she is not consciously aware. Often intercourse in a dream can mark the integration of a particular part of one’s personality; If a child is then born that integration has been successful. Kiss This can indicate a mark of respect or a desire lo stimulate the dream partner. It suggests we should be aware of what arousal we ourselves need. Masochism The desire to hurt oneself or to be hurt in dreams through sex arises from two causes.
The first is to be a martyr (to suffer for one’s ‘sins’) and the second to feel extreme emotion of one sort or another. We mav not allow ourselves to feel deeply in everyday life.
Masturbation The child learns to comfort himself through masturbation, so dreaming of masturbation is a need for comfort. Perversion When sexual perversion appears in dreams we are avoiding, or attempting to avoid, issues to do with closeness and bonding.
Phallus Any image either of or to do with the phallus signifies everything that is creative, penetrative and masculine.
It is vitality and creativity in both its simplest and most complex form.
It is resurrection and the renewal of life. Rape Any image of rape appearing in dreams can be as much to do with violation of personal space as with the sexual act. Sexual rape is unlikely to appear in the dreams of, for instance, sexually abused children. It may only appear as an image when the adult is ready to deal with the trauma. Sadism (also see individual entry) Sadism appearing in a dream would suggest that it is probably a counterbalance to the dreamer’s conscious way of being in the world. In everyday life he may be cither very timid, in which case the dream is an escape mechanism or. in having to be dominant and controlling in everyday life, the unconscious shows its need to be controlled.
Semen Dreams have an odd way of throwing up images of primitive rites and practices of which we may have no conscious knowledge. Many of these are representations of the sexual act. Semen is the sign of masculinity and of physical maturitv and is often seen in dreams as some other milkv fluid.
Sexuality in a dream, in the sense of feeling desire for someone else most often of the opposite sex is a basic primeval urge for closeness and union with that person.
It is as though we are searching for a part of ourselves that we have lost.
The other character in the dream represents the closcst we can get to that part.
If we were a fully integrated human being, we would have no need for sex with someone else, but for most of us we have a desire to be united with everything which is not part of our own ego. Such a dream, which highlights the feelings we are capable of having, provides information to enable us to understand our own needs. Transvestism This signifies a confusion so far as gender is concerned in dreams. Venereal Disease In a dream this can suggest awareness of some kind of contamination. This need not necessarily be of a sexual nature, but could also be emotional.
3- Sexual activity is either the highest expression of love and spirituality between two people or. if purely physically based, is entirely selfish. It would be up to the dreamer and their understanding of themselves to determine which it is.... Ten Thousand Dream Dictionary
If you dream of having sex with a particular person, then you are connecting to this person and/or what they represent to you.... Strangest Dream Explanations
If you dream of having sex with a celebrity, you wish to be more popular or accepted by those around you.
If you dreamed of having sex with a friend’s boyfriend/husband, this indicates your wish to be a positive relationship and to experience the energy of love. It may also mean that you are jealous of certain qualities that your friend possesses.
If you dreamed of changing into someone of the opposite sex, read the explanation under “Gender” in this dictionary.
If you dreamed of watching someone else have sex, look up “Voyeur/Voyeurism”.... My Dream Interpretation
• Passion is our biggest motivational force. Sex is also about creativity. What do you most crave to manifest in your life right now? Are you being thwarted in your creative endeavours?... The Premier in Dream Dictionary
Sexual teasing in a dream indicates the realization of an unworthy ambition.
Otherwise, see Intercourse, Orgy, Impotence, Incest, or Sexual Organs.... The Complete Guide to Interpreting Your Dreams
(2) Uninhibited sex in a dream would suggest that the dreamer’s actual sex life is inhibited.
(3) Dreams may reveal patterns in your sexual relationships that you have not been aware of. What sort of person attracts you in vour dreams? How do you feel about this or that aspect of the sexual encounter?
(4) Another reason for paying great attention to dreams depicting sexual relations is that the shadow may be very prominent in sex; so here is a way of getting to know your alter-ego, the hidden part of yourself.
(5) In dreams of sex your partner may symbolize some part of your own psyche, for example, your anima if you are male, your animus if you are female, and the sexual act will then be a symbol of the union of opposites which leads to wholeness and balance in the personality.... A Dictionary of Dream Symbols
A strange superstition says that if you dream that you are in a brothel, your domestic life will improve.
If you change sexes, it foretells success within the family.... The Big Dictionary of Dreams
The act of sex can be defined symbolically as two separate energies attempting to merge into one. Therefore, sex is symbolic of the process of integration.
If you remove any personal projections that come up around sex and how it was played out in your dream, the interpretive meaning rises above any potential embarrassment or shame. Though sometimes more difficult to accept, this also applies to sexual encounters that have societal taboos associated with them, such as those involving incestuous relationships or illegal activities. Whoever you are having sex with in your dream represents a character aspect that your unconscious is telling you needs to be integrated into your personality.
If you are witnessing a sexual act, then you will need to consider what character aspects of yourself are being expressed by the people having sex.
The message of integration still applies, but it will connect more to parts of your personality that need to join forces. Perhaps a life situation is demanding different areas of your skill sets that, if combined, will empower you to be effective in a way that is currently eluding you.... Complete Dictionary of Dreams
According to Freud, virtually every dream topic—from the phallic symbolism of a clenched fist or a tall building to the feminine associations of a cave or a rosebud unfolding—represented the release of sexual tension. Although Freud’s classic work built a solid basis for dream analysis, Jung rejected Freud’s idea of the libido being exclusively sexual and argued that Freud saw sexual symbolism in too wide a range of phenomena. According to Jung, sexual dreams were more likely to represent the search for perfect balance between the masculine and feminine principles within oneself. They served as pointers towards psychological growth and wholeness.
Today most dream analysts regard dreams as emotional safety valves. The energy behind the sexual drive is enormously important and can express itself in many different ways apart from genital sex, for example caring for others.
If this energy is blocked, however, it can lead to poor emotional health, and feelings of loneliness and low self-esteem. Your dreams show you in detail just how you are dealing with this important area of your life, and what is preventing you from feeling satisfied and healthy.
If you pay attention to your dreams, they will reveal your intimate and individual needs, thereby considerably enriching your waking life. See also ANIMALS; BODY; RELATIONSHIPS.... The Element Encyclopedia
It is as though we are searching for a part of ourselves that we have lost and the other character in the dream represents the closest we can get to that part.
If we were a fully integrated human being, we would have no need for sex with someone else, but most of us have an inherent desire to be united with everything that is not part of our own ego. Sexual activity is either the highest expression of love and spirituality between two people or, if purely physically based, is entirely selfish. It would be up to us and our understanding of ourselves to determine which it is.... Dream Meanings of Versatile
For instance most times this happened I have been in the middle of a dream in which there is a sense of absolute imperative that I must make love/have sex.
It is like being lost in a storm of glamour and fantasy or vision in which I am totally involved.
The whirl of the “dream” is towards the wonder, totality of the need to have sex. As this imperative is expressed in my still spontaneous, dreaming physical action, the experience of sex is also visionary and enormous’ (Charles W).
This fairly common dreaming experience demonstrates powerfully how dreams are an expression of a self regulatory or compensatory action in the psyche and body. Charles says that he had been restraining his sexual activity. This shows the enormous gulf which can exist between what we will to do as a conscious personality, and what our being needs to do or wishes to do outside conscious decision making.
The ‘glamour and fantasy’ Charles describes are regular features of how these deeper needs make themselves known, or attempt to coerce the conscious mind, into fulfilling the need.
If we reject the fantasy, the unconscious processes will attempt a more radical approach, as in actual physical movement while we sleep. This may have given rise to ideas about possession or devils in past ages, when it was not understood that we can split our mind by such conflicts. Fear of the possessing’ influence actually heightens its power through suggestion.
It is much better to understand what one’s needs are, and seek an acceptable fulfilment. See abreaction. ... A Guide to Dreams and Sleep Experiences
For example, some people are uncomfortable talking about what really makes them feel good, or about what types of things they fantasize.
Fears and uncertainties about your physical performance in bed.
Unexpressed desires toward specific individuals. Sometimes these people are unobtainable and uninterested. In this case, the dream allows you to live out the fantasy in a socially acceptable manner.... The Language of Dreams
If a poor person sees such a dream, it means that he will fall sick, or attract an incurable disease.
To have sexual intercourse with a male in a dream also means falling into sin, committing the unlawful, or engaging in sexual intercourse with a female member of one’s own family, a blood relation, or a consanguineous person whom one is forbidden to marry. Molesting a child in a dream means suffering from a great affliction. Fornication with a young servant in a dream means suffering from continuous stress and a lasting depression. Sleeping with a beautiful woman one recognizes in his dream means profits. Sleeping with an ugly looking old woman in a dream means the opposite. Having sexual intercourse with an unknown woman in a dream represents the type of interactions and dealings one fosters with people in general. Accordingly, and depending on the condition of the woman one is sleepingwith in a dream, one’s actions will substantiate. Sleepingwith someone’s wife in a dream means engaging in a profitable business with the husband.
If a sick person sees himselfhaving sexual intercourse with his mother in a dream, it means his death, for the mother here represent the earth.
If a woman sees herselfengaging in tribadism, or a lesbian relationship with another woman she knows in a dream, it means that she will confide her personal life to her, or divulge all her secrets, become her intimate friend or a fan, shares opinions with her and emulate her actions and look in public. Ifshe does not know that woman in the dream, it means that she will indulge in sin.
If a married woman sees herself engaging in tribadism with another woman in a dream, it means that she will separate from her husband or become a widow. Engaging in sexual intercourse with a deceased person, be it a man or a woman in a dream means one’s own death, unless if one is travelling, then it could mean visiting that country where the deceased person is buried. Any sexual intercourse in a dream that culminates in ejecting semen and necessitates a complete ritual ablution in wakefulness represents disturbed dreams, or engaging in a forbidden sexual intercourse from the anus, or it could represent wet dreams. Having sexual intercourse in a dream also signifies paying one’s debts, or it could mean relief from pressures. Having sexual intercourse with a prostitute in a dream means love for the world, or it could mean profits. Having sexual intercourse with one’s wife in a dream means success in one’s trade. Having sexual intercourse with a heavenly woman in a dream means religious and spiritual attainment.
(Also see Anus; Semen; Pleasure; Sodomy; Tears; Vagina)... Islamic Dream Interpretation
A dream of having diseased sex organs is telling you to practice a bit of underindulgence for a time; to dream of having deformed organs is a warning against casual sex relations; if your dream concerned unusual organs, it augurs an increase in social popularity; to dream of having no sexual organs suggests you could benefit from some competent advice regarding your sex life; and if you dreamed of exposing your sex organs, you are being warned that your reputation is in danger through your own indiscretions.... The Complete Guide to Interpreting Your Dreams
The male animus and the female anima are what the dreamer needs or wants to be connected with. Sexuality in dreams often refers to the secrets of life, such as birth, marriage, death (also life and the Devil). One of the strongest symbols of creativity.... Little Giant Encyclopedia
The rest of the dream symbols are very important. See Intercourse, Rape.... Dreamers Dictionary
If the encounter is with someone whose feelings the dreamer isn’t sure of, it could mean the same, but it could also be nothing more than a wish-fulfillment dream. Look to other symbols in the dream in order to discern its true meaning.
If the encounter is an unpleasant one with either a stranger or someone whom the dreamer does NOT like, the dreamer is trying to avoid a distasteful choice or confrontation that perhaps should actually be faced.
If the encounter is a pleasant one with a partner that the dreamer does not know, then the dreamer is about to gain something that he’s been wanting for a long time. Again, to ascertain what it is, look to other symbols in the dream. Astrological parallels: Venus, Mars, Taurus, Scorpio Tarot parallel: The Lovers... Dream Explanations of Astro Center
2. Someone to call on for special help. ... New American Dream Dictionary
If you dream that your sister has died: your life will take a turn for the worse. Saying goodbye to your sister: you will be on your own in the near future. Seeing a nun: you will receive help in a dire situation.
A woman dreaming about a nun: be more helpful to others. See Nun.
Depth Psychology: If you have a sister, the dream will reveal the real relationship you have with her. Sometimes the dream may refer to character traits that, while similar, do not quite match those of your sister. See Siblings.... Dreamers Dictionary
If you do not have a sister and dream that you have one, then it implies that you possess certain qualities that you have not discovered as of yet. Consider what the sister is saying and doing.... Dream Symbols and Analysis
If you don’t have a sister, then this dream reflects someone with whom you share a kinship, a sisterly bond where your secrets are safe and you feel nurtured.
For some a sister represents rivalry or competition. Consider the feeling tone.... Strangest Dream Explanations
If she is younger then she can epitomize the more vulnerable side of him. In a woman’s dream if the sister is younger, she can represent rivalry.
If older she stands for capability.... Dream Meanings of Versatile
If you two have different relationships with your parents, your dream may be calling attention to your feelings about that. Or, someone you just met could have qualities similar to your sister.
If you do not have a sister and dream that you have one, then it signifies some qualities that you need to find or develop within your own self. Pay attention to the actions and behavior of your dream sister, for they are your biggest clue about what those qualities might be.... My Dream Interpretation
For a man, it signifies emotional security, but for a woman, it portends domestic disagreements.
An objective dream of sibling unity between sisters is an indication of emotional stability.... The Complete Guide to Interpreting Your Dreams
This kind of dream can also acknowledge one’s close feelings with others who are like a sister.... Dream Symbols in The Dream Encyclopedia
The feminine side of the dreamer, the emotional side. According to Steckel and Freud, breasts.... Little Giant Encyclopedia
If you are arguing with your sister-in-law, it may imply that you refuse to accept that you both have certain aspects or attributes in common.... Dream Symbols and Analysis
Why do I dream of being intimate with people to whom I’m not attracted? There are several reasons for this.
If you honestly don’t find the person attractive in waking life, they may represent a quality or characteristic that is closely linked to a quality you are exploring or discovering within yourself.
If the partner is particularly unsavory, your dreaming mind may be encouraging you to say no to things that are not right for you.
Are dreams of my partner’s infidelity a warning sign? In some cases, yes, but in the majority of cases such dramas are metaphors for some kind of emotional abandonment or neglect; perhaps your loved one is showing more attention to the children—or to their job or hobbies—than to you.
Do repeated dreams of my first love mean I have not got over him or her? Your first love tends to be a symbol of romantic love in dreams but when they appear in your dreams, it is likely that your dreaming mind is using them as an emblem of love to help you work through your current relationship issues. In most cases, your dreaming mind is focused on current issues.
What do dreams of being back with my ex mean? Dreaming about your ex does not mean you want to be with them. Unless you are convinced that your latest ex is the ’one’, your dreaming mind is using them as an actor to represent your love interest. In most cases, such dreams suggest that you are going over old issues or relationship patterns, and that your dreaming mind is using such images to help you heal and move on to a more positive future. When any relationship breaks down, your dreaming mind will delve into memories, fears and hopes to help you unravel mysteries and gain understanding about what makes real love work. Your inner mind is constantly sorting through what works and what doesn’t work in a relationship, and it will refer back to past relationships to compare strengths and weaknesses and try to make sense of things.
If I have a perfect dream romance, does this mean the perfect partner will appear in my life? In you are single and you have a perfect romantic and sexual dream, this could be wish-fulfillment but it could also be your dreaming mind’s way of reminding you that love and passion are still out there and you should open yourself up to the possibility of romance.
If I have a bizarre or distressing dream about sex, does this mean I’m weird? Don’t interpret your dreaming according to how you judge it when you are awake, and try not to feel guilty. Instead, try to understand the dream and remind yourself that your dreaming mind will use sexual images—even graphic or shocking ones—as metaphors or opportunities to learn about yourself.... Common Dreams
If you do not have step-brothers and step-sisters in waking life, this may indicate a lack of intimacy and connection in your current social circle. See also RELATIONSHIPS.... The Element Encyclopedia
2. Issues concerning one’s sexual identity.
3. A message from one level of consciousness to the next regarding the handling of a situation or relationship; may suggest the need to alter one’s views or behavior. ... New American Dream Dictionary
If you are planning to undergo transsexual surgery, then the dream represents your anxieties about the procedure, recovery, and post-surgery.
To see a transsexual in your dream implies that both the feminine and masculine side of your personality is in disarray. You may be reluctant to discover yourself.... Dream Symbols and Analysis
If the transsexual experience is something you are familiar with, your dream may simply be an exploration of the different ways in which roles in the world are much more fluid than most people imagine. At the heart of this symbol is the switching between the masculine and feminine principles, between doing and being.
The presence of a transsexual character in a dream may be asking you to consider the opposite point of view in some situation in your current life. When you imagine that taking action is best, perhaps being still is what is called for. When you have traditionally been slow to move, taking bold action may be a more powerful choice.... Complete Dictionary of Dreams