Many dreams of dead people come from women who have lost their husband.
It is common to have disturbing dreams for some period afterwards; or not be able to dream about the husband (or wife) at all; or to see the partner in the distance but not get near. In accepting the death, meeting any feelings of loss, grief, anger and continuing love, the dream may become as below.
The example both shows the resolution of the loss, but also the paradox felt at realising the meeting was an inner reality. Example: ‘A couple of months ago as I was waking I felt my husband’s arm across me and most realistically experienced my hand wrapping around his arm and turning towards him (which I had done so often in his lifetime) and saying “1 thought you had died. Thank God you have not.” Then I awoke alone and terribly shaken’ (Mrs I).
A critic might say this is only a dream in which a lonely woman is replaying memories of her dead husband’s presence for her own comfort—thus her disappointment on being disillusioned. Whatever our opinion, the woman has within her such memories to replay. These are reality.
The inner reality is of what experience was left within her from the relationship. Her challenge is whether she can meet this treasure with its share of pain, and draw out of it the essence which enriches her own being. That is the spiritual life of her husband.
The aliveness’ of her husband in that sense is also social, because many other people share memories of him. What arises in their own lives from such memories is the observable influence of the now dead person.
But the dead also touch us more mysteriously, as in the next example. Example: In a recent news programme on television, a man who survived a Japanese prisoner of war camp in Singapore had been given a photograph of children by a dying soldier he did not know.
The man had asked him to tell his family of his death, but did not give his name.
The photograph was kept for 40 odd years, the man still wanting to complete his promise but not knowing how. One night he dreamt he was told the man’s name. Enquiries soon found the family of the man, who had an identical photograph. See husband under family. ... A Guide to Dreams and Sleep Experiences
Dreams of a desperate housewife or of the show, “Desperate Housewives” denote your connection to the dark side of femininity: vindictiveness, competition, beauty used as a weapon, and victimization. See Drama Queen and Karma.... Strangest Dream Explanations
Example:41 dreamt my sister was attacking me with a pair of scissors. She backed me against a wall and stabbed me. During the day after the dream my sister phoned me at work and said she’d had an awful dream in which she stabbed me with scissors’ (D).
The Poseidia Institute of Virginia Beach, Va., have run a number of group ‘mutual dreaming’ experiments. Although the Institute suggests very positive results, a critical survey of the dreams and reports reveals a lack of hard evidence. Like other areas of ESP dreaming, it can seldom ever be willed. But the dreams did show themes related to problems regarding intimate meeting. Also, some of the dreams were directly about the goal of dream meeting, as in the following example.
Example: ‘I find the group of people I am looking for. There were maybe six or more people. They were asleep on mattresses except for two or three. These were awake and waiting for me, and wearing small pointed hats such as Tibetan Lamas wear. In the dream I realised this meant they had achieved sufficient inner growth to remain awake in sleep. We started to communicate and were going to wake the others’ (Tom C). See dream as a meeting place.
the dream as extended perception Even everyday mental functions such as thought and memory occur largely unconsciously. During sleep, perhaps because we surrender our volition, what is left of self awareness enters the realm where the nine-tenths of the iceberg of our mind is active. In this realm faculties can function which on waking seem unobtainable.
1- Extending awareness to a point distant from the body, to witness events confirmed by other people. This is often called out of body experience (OBE), but some of these experiences suggest the nature of consciousness and time may not be dualistic (having to be either here or there). See out of body experience.
2-Being aware of the death or danger of a member of family. Kinship and love seem to be major factors in the way the unconscious functions. See dead people dreams.
3-Seeing into the workings of the body and diagnosing an illness before it becomes apparent to waking observation. Dr Vasali Kasatkin and Professor Medard Boss have specialised in the study of such dreams. In a recent dream told to me, a man looked back into a bedroom and saw a piece of the wall fall away. Waves of water gushed from a main pipe.
The dreamer struggled to hold back the piece of broken pipe. Within two weeks his colon burst and he had to have a major operation. See meditation.
4-Access to a computer-like ability to son through a massive store of information and experience to solve problems. These dreams are often confused with precognitive ability. Prediction does occur from these dreams, but it arises, as with weather prediction, from a massive gathering of information, most of which we have forgotten consciously. Monon Schatzman, in a New Scientist anicle, showed how subjects can produce answers to complex mathematical problems in their dreams. See dream process as computer; creativity and problem solving in dreams.
5-Tapping a collective mind which stores all experience, and is sensed as godlike or holy. See dream as spiritual guide.
It seems likely that before the development of speech the human animal communicated largely through body language. Some dreams suggest we still have this ability to read a person’s health, sexual situation, intentions and even their past, through body shape, posture and tiny movements. See postures, movement and body language.
See Cayce, Edgar; collective unconscious; wife under family. See also hallucinations. ... A Guide to Dreams and Sleep Experiences
A woman is the intuitive, creative part of self. Whatever qualities, characteristics, and lessons that you associate with that person you may be learning about again. Pay attention.... The Dream Books Symbols
Dreams of an ex are about venting, sorting and processing your ties to your former lovers. You are realizing that those relationships do not end when the divorce papers are signed. Often an ex represents a part of your shadow that you must face and embrace, erased and eventually replace. See Integration Dreams.... Strangest Dream Explanations
To dream of living together with your romantic partner, or with a good friend, symbolizes transition and commitment. You will undergo an important developmental phase in your relationship with this person.
The dream may also represent the unification of formerly separate or opposite aspects of yourself, such as the masculine and feminine sides of your personality.... My Dream Interpretation
Compensation and reconciliation of differences, melding of male and female energies. Usually, the dreamer’s own characteristics are indicated. Longing for partnership, particularly in a divorce or separation situation; or fear of marriage and commitment. Are you able to accept the Other? Are you able to preserve the space between yourself and the Other, and experience it as positive? However, you also ought to ask yourself if you are expecting your partner to fulfill all your desires, or are you willing to work for them yourself? Transference.... Little Giant Encyclopedia
Dreams of a mayor represent your relationship with the role of responsibility, respect, and that of decision maker. Your dream may be telling you that it is time to take charge of your life because major changes will come as a result of you willingness to take responsibility for your life.... Strangest Dream Explanations
(Accoucheuse) In a dream, a midwife means revealing hidden secrets that when unveiled, they will cause injuries or death. Seeing a midwife in a dream also denotes good advice. Seeing her in a dream also indicates walking through adversities, reaching peace, initiating fascination, or she could represent trials, evil, crying, or paying a fine.
(Also see Dromedary rider)... Islamic Dream Interpretation
Vision: Seeing a midwife: a long-held secret is going to be revealed. Speaking to a midwife: celebrating a baptism or you will watch the birth of a child. Being examined by a midwife: you have a bad conscience and want help and relief.
Depth Psychology: The midwife stands for needing help in the Birth of a new idea.... Dreamers Dictionary
Dreams of a midwife symbolize that you have support to assist you through the birthing process of a new chapter of your life, a new creative project, a new relationship, or a new incarnation of yourself. See Birth, Infant, Delivery and Angel.... Strangest Dream Explanations
Dreams of a Stepford Wife represents your attempts to live up to an impossible ideal of the perfect woman, wife, and mother. You are realizing the price you pay when you strive for the outer appearance of perfection while ignoring the richness of your soul. Perhaps this dream is here to remind you that you are already perfect.... Strangest Dream Explanations
A wife in a dream represents a partner, an enemy, an unjust ruler, one’s opponent, prosperity, a vehicle, earthly wealth, worldly pleasures, the combination of comfort and toiling, or she could mean honor, class, or whatever indication of personality or character the wife may stand for in the dream.
(Also see Climbing a mountain; Closet; Hide-out; Kh.imiir; Marriage; Protection; Veil)... Islamic Dream Interpretation
Dreams of a wife reflect your feelings and associations with marriage, and your projections about what a woman’s role in a wedded partnership should be. Consider the feeling tone to discern its message for you. You are either feeling in need of the goddess archetype that stabilizes home and family, or you are grappling with resistance, rebellion or feelings of betrayal toward this domestic archetype. See Goddess Hera.... Strangest Dream Explanations
(1) The wife in a man’s dream may be his own wife, with no symbolism at all.
(2) Even so, bear in mind that the way you relate to your wife (in the dream or in reality) may contain elements of your relation with your mother or your anima. (For anima, see Brother / Sister, sections
(3) Seeing a deceased wife is common. Try to feel her - and your love for her - within yourself, rather than as an external presence.... A Dictionary of Dream Symbols
This dream could refer to the real dreamer’s wife or certain feminine traits. Freud’s studies suggest that your behavior toward her can be reminiscent of the relation you maintained with your mother during childhood.
Dreaming of a single man walking next to a woman claiming to be his wife predicts unexpected news.... The Big Dictionary of Dreams
As with women dreaming about their husbands, to dream of your wife may simply be a dream about your relationship and your unconscious feelings about it. This dream may be about your real partner or it may represent the feminine side of your personality. According to Freudians, the way you relate to your wife in your dream may contain elements reminiscent of your relationship with your mother.
If you find yourself in a love triangle in your dream this indicates a difficult conflict of interests and shifting feelings within a relationship.
If your first wife appears in your dreams this represents the past; competition for the second wife.
If a widow appears in your dreams, this represents fears about the break-up of your relationship, or even the desire to break a relationship. It can also suggest feelings of loneliness or loss.
If you are a married woman dreaming about being a widow, this indicates fears about losing your husband or a desire to be free of him. Unmarried women dreaming of, or meeting, a widow might indicate anxieties about a relationship or the prospect of one. See also Gay relationships in RELATIONSHIPS.... The Element Encyclopedia
The relationship between husband and wife is often based on how the man perceives himself to be, and can be enhanced through his dreams.
Dreaming of a partner sometimes signifies the part of our personality that we cannot quite make full use of without help.
A man will often attempt to prove himself a good husband through his dreams. He may experience in dreams the potential loss and death of his partner with the same intensity as he experienced the first ‘loss’ of his mother.... Dream Meanings of Versatile
If a person sees himself as sewing or joining his wife’s garments or burqa or head-cloth, it means he will quarrel with her and she is turn will come to find out all that his relatives know... Islamic Dream Interpretation