It is common to have disturbing dreams for some period afterwards; or not be able to dream about the husband (or wife) at all; or to see the partner in the distance but not get near. In accepting the death, meeting any feelings of loss, grief, anger and continuing love, the dream may become as below.
The example both shows the resolution of the loss, but also the paradox felt at realising the meeting was an inner reality. Example: ‘A couple of months ago as I was waking I felt my husband’s arm across me and most realistically experienced my hand wrapping around his arm and turning towards him (which I had done so often in his lifetime) and saying “1 thought you had died. Thank God you have not.” Then I awoke alone and terribly shaken’ (Mrs I).
A critic might say this is only a dream in which a lonely woman is replaying memories of her dead husband’s presence for her own comfort—thus her disappointment on being disillusioned. Whatever our opinion, the woman has within her such memories to replay. These are reality.
The inner reality is of what experience was left within her from the relationship. Her challenge is whether she can meet this treasure with its share of pain, and draw out of it the essence which enriches her own being. That is the spiritual life of her husband.
The aliveness’ of her husband in that sense is also social, because many other people share memories of him. What arises in their own lives from such memories is the observable influence of the now dead person.
But the dead also touch us more mysteriously, as in the next example. Example: In a recent news programme on television, a man who survived a Japanese prisoner of war camp in Singapore had been given a photograph of children by a dying soldier he did not know.
The man had asked him to tell his family of his death, but did not give his name.
The photograph was kept for 40 odd years, the man still wanting to complete his promise but not knowing how. One night he dreamt he was told the man’s name. Enquiries soon found the family of the man, who had an identical photograph. See husband under family. ... A Guide to Dreams and Sleep Experiences
A woman is the intuitive, creative part of self. Whatever qualities, characteristics, and lessons that you associate with that person you may be learning about again. Pay attention.... The Dream Books Symbols
If he mistreats and upbraids you for unfaithfulness, you will hold his regard and confidence, but other worries will ensue and you are warned to be more discreet in receiving attention from men.
If you see him dead, disappointment and sorrow will envelop you.
To see him pale and careworn, sickness will tax you heavily, as some of the family will linger in bed for a time.
To see him gay and handsome, your home will be filled with happiness and bright prospects will be yours.
If he is sick, you will be mistreated by him and he will be unfaithful.
To dream that he is in love with another woman, he will soon tire of his present surroundings and seek pleasure elsewhere.
To be in love with another woman’s husband in your dreams, denotes that you are not happily married, or that you are not happy unmarried, but the chances for happiness are doubtful.
For an unmarried woman to dream that she has a husband, denotes that she is wanting in the graces which men most admire.
To see your husband depart from you, and as he recedes from you he grows larger, inharmonious surroundings will prevent immediate congeniality.
If disagreeable conclusions are avoided, harmony will be reinstated.
For a woman to dream she sees her husband in a compromising position with an unsuspected party, denotes she will have trouble through the indiscretion of friends.
If she dreams that he is killed while with another woman, and a scandal ensues, she will be in danger of separating from her husband or losing property. Unfavorable conditions follow this dream, though the evil is often exaggerated. ... Ten Thousand Dream Interpretation
A boss, partner, etc.; See “marry”... Dream Dictionary Unlimited
2. Unconscious feelings toward actual husband.
3. The “fertility” of ideas and creativity. ... New American Dream Dictionary
Example: ‘My recurring dream—some disaster is happening. I try to contact the police or my husband. Can never contact either. I try ringing 999 again and again and can feel terror, and sometimes dreadful anger or complete panic. I cry, I scream and shout and never get through! Recently I have stopped trying to contact my husband. I managed once to reach him but he said he was too busy and I would have to deal with it myself. I woke in a furious temper with him and kicked him while he was still asleep’ (Mrs GS).
The husband here depicts Mrs S’s feelings of not being able to get through’ to her man. This is a common female dream theme, possibly arising from the husband not daring to express emotion or meet his panner with his own feelings.
For Mrs S this is an emergency. Although the dream dramatises it, there is still real frustration, anger, and a break in marital communications.
Example: There were three of us. My husband, a male friend and 1, all nding small white enamel bikes. My husband proceeded slowly, first, with his back to us. Then my friend followed. Suddenly my friend ahead of me turned and gazed fully at me. He gave a glonous smile which lit up the whole of his face. I felt a great sense of well-being surge through me’ (Joan B).
The triangle: the example shows typical flow of feeling towards another male.
The other male here depicts
Joan’s desire to be attractive to other men. This is a danger signal unless one fully acknowledges ihe impulse.
Example: ‘I was with my husband and our three children. About 2 or 3 yards to our right stood my husband’s first wife —she died about a year before I first met him. I remember feeling she no longer minded me being with him, so I put my arms around him from the back, and felt more secure and comfortable with him’ (Mrs NS).
The first wife: the dreamer is now feeling easier about her husband’s first relationship.
The first wife represents her sense of competing for her husband’s affections, even though his ‘first woman’ was dead.
Example: ‘My dead husband came into my bedroom and got into bed with me to make love to me. I was not afraid. But owing to his sexual appetites during my married life with him I was horrified, and resisted him with all my might. On waking I felt weak and exhausted.
The last time he came to me I responded to him and he never came back again. This happened three times.
The last time I don’t think it was a dream. I was not asleep. I think it was his ghost’ (GL). Dead husband: in any experience of an apparently psychic nature, we must always remember the unconscious is a great dramatist. It can create the drama of a dream in moments. In doing so it makes our inner feelings into apparently real people and objects outside us. While asleep we lightly dismiss this amazing process as a dream’. When it happens while our eyes are open or we are near waking, for some reason we call it a ghost or psychic event. Yet the dream process is obviously capable of creating total body sensations, emotions, full visual impressions, vocalisation—what else is a dream? On the other hand, the dream process is not dealing in pointless imaginations. Many women tend to believe they have little sexual drive, so it is easier for GL to see her drive in the form of her husband. But of course, her husband may also depict how she felt about sex in connection with his ‘sexual appetites’.
It is a general rule, however, that our dream process will dramatise into a past life, or a psychic’ experience, emotions linked with trauma or sexual drive which we find difficult to meet in the present.
Example: ‘I dreamt many times I lost my husband, such as not being able to find the car park where he was waiting, and seeing him go off in the distance. I wake in a panic to find him next to me in bed. These dreams persisted, and then he died quite suddenly. He was perfectly healthy at the time of the dreams and I wonder if it was a premonition of me really losing him’ (Mrs AD). Cannot find husband: many middle aged women dream of ‘losing’ their husband while out with him, perhaps shopping, or walking in a town somewhere. Sometimes the dream ponrays him actually killed. Mrs AD wonders if her dream was a premonition.
It is more likely a form of practising the loss, so it does not come as such a shock.
The greatest shocks occur when we have never even considered the event—such as a young child losing its mother, an event it has never practised, not even in fantasy, so has no inbuilt shock absorbers. As most of us know, men tend to die before women, and this information is in the mind of middle-aged married women. Mrs AD may have unconsciously observed slight changes in her husband’s body and behaviour, and therefore readied herself.
Other woman’s husband: one’s own husband, feelings about that man, desire for a non-committed relationship with less responsibility. ... A Guide to Dreams and Sleep Experiences
To dream of having a husband when you are single points to relationships in general. Most girls look for their father’s personality or traits while choosing their life partners. Those traits often represent the male side of a girl’s character. All this is represented when a girl dreams of a husband with all those traits she admires or dreads.... Dream Symbols and Analysis
If you are an unmarried man dreaming of being a husband, then you are processing your aspirations/hopes/fears of one day being married.
If you are a married man, then this dream can represent your assimilation of the pressure of being the breadwinner.
If you are a married woman, this can also be your assimilation of your idealized husband versus the day to day reality, expectations and demands that you have of your actual husband.
If you are an unmarried woman, this dream may be your hope, fantasy, or “dream” of what your future husband will be.... Strangest Dream Explanations
If you fall in love with another woman’s husband, it indicates that you are growing vicious. ... Indian Interpretation of Dreams
If you dream of your real-life husband, your dream represents your emotions around this relationship. Look up other symbols, or feelings you had, in the dream for further meaning.... My Dream Interpretation
If you dreamed of being married when- you aren’t it signifies a serious lovers’ quarrel and/or a broken relationship.... The Complete Guide to Interpreting Your Dreams
If doubts about validity and intimacy are not properly resolved in her waking life, they will appear in dreams about the loss or death of her husband. They may also be projected onto other women’s husbands in dreams.
If your husband goes missing in your dream or you can’t find him while out with him, your unconscious may be referring to the well-known statistic that most men die before women.
If your husband is dead in both your dream and in your waking life, this refers to the memories you have shared with him.
If another woman’s husband appears, this may refer to a desire for a relationship outside your current one.
If you are having sex with your husband in your dream, this can be a wonderful indicator of how you are feeling about your sexual and emotional relationship with him.
If your first husband appears in your dreams, this represents nostalgia for the past, or more obliquely, competition for your current husband. See also Gay relationships in RELATIONSHIPS.... The Element Encyclopedia
If her doubts and fears about validity are not properly expressed, they will surface in dreams about the loss, or death, of her husband. Such fears may also be projected onto other women’s husbands, almost as though her own husband is too close to her.... Dream Meanings of Versatile
It is a bad omen to have your Photograph taken. ... Mystic Dream Book
Cloned ideas or lacking originality- in your approaches.
The loss of value or appeal because of having been overexposed to one person, object, or situation repeatedly. Just as a child with candy, there can be too much of a good thing.... The Language of Dreams
2. Image of the world, an event or self-image, depending on the subject.
3. A feeling that a possible deception is approaching.
4. Rivals may vie for the affections of dear ones. ... New American Dream Dictionary
To look at a photograph of someone else indicates jealousy on your part.... Gypsy Dream Dictionary
If you dream about a photograph of your lover, you are warned that he is not giving you his total loyalty, even though he acts trustworthy.
If the photograph is of your family, you aren’t getting their full support on something that’s important to you.
If you dream of photographs featuring people you don’t recognize, this foretells uncomfortable confessions about something you have done.
If you were the one taking photos in your dream, this symbolizes your need to hold on to a feeling, or an image of yourself, from a point in your life that’s now in the past. Also see “Baby Pictures” and “Photo Album.”... My Dream Interpretation
The dream may be calling attention to past events and reminding you that you are making the same errors all over again. ... The Bedside Dream Dictionary
The dream may be pointing out the past and reminding you that you are making the same errors all over again.... Tryskelion Dream Interpretation
If the photographs are not familiar to you, your dream may have been signifying an aspect of yourself or your sense of direction in waking life. Was the photo clear or out of focus? This may signify how certain or uncertain you are of your attitudes.
If you were taking the photograph, this suggests that you feel in control of your daily life.
If you were studying a negative or are in a photographic darkroom, this suggests negativity in your daily life but you may also simply be waiting to see what will develop.
If the photos come to life, this suggests the living influence of past experience and your continuing involvement in what the picture depicts. Talking photos suggests that you need to remember or take notice of someone or something in your waking life.... The Element Encyclopedia
2. A reluctance to let go of sometimes false perceptions.
3. A need or desire to control or understand memories or situations, perhaps alter them in ways that make them less painful. ... New American Dream Dictionary
To be given a photograph of oneself would indicate that we need to be taking an objective view of situations round us or perhaps of ourselves within that situation. We need to stand back and look very clearlv at what is going on.
2- Obviously photographs represent memories, past occasions, perhaps past difficulties.
To be looking at photographs of someone from the past is to be looking at that person’s qualities perhaps bringing them forward into our own lives - and making use of those same qualities within.
3- Photographs in dreams can be used to represent a spiritual need to understand the past.... Ten Thousand Dream Dictionary
Memories that may have gotten pushed aside, but need to surface now to help you better understand or cope with a specific situation or individual.
[f the photograph itself isn’t familiar, look to see what it contains and review those emblems herein. In this case, it may be a snapshot from the subconscious or I Iigher Self of something that you need to know and remember in the days ahead.... The Language of Dreams
To be looking at photographs of someone from the past is to be looking at that person’s qualities – perhaps bringing them forward into our own lives – and making use of those same qualities within. In magical work a photograph is used as a representation of someone else and can have this meaning in dreams, rather than dreaming about the person concerned.... Dream Meanings of Versatile
To be given a photograph of oneself would indicate that we need to be taking an objective view of situations round us or perhaps of ourselves within that situation. We need to stand back and look very clearly at what is going on.... Dream Meanings of Versatile
If you are developing photos, this suggests discovering hidden talents or abilities.
If you are looking at family photos or an album, this refers to an appreciation of past influences in your life.
If the photo is of yourself, this suggests you need to take an objective look at yourself, especially if you are given the photo in your dream. You need to stand back and see clearly.
If the photo is of someone you know, perhaps you need to look at that person’s qualities and make use of those qualities yourself.
If the photos in your dreams come to life, this indicates your continuing involvement in what the picture depicts, or that the past as a whole is still influencing you.
If you are taking a photograph, this suggests that you need to remember or take notice of something.
If you are using a camera in your dreams, this might suggest that you need to remember what is important in your life and perhaps take more notice of certain situations or people. You may have noticed something out of the ‘corner of your eye’, but not yet have processed it into waking consciousness.
If you are being filmed or having your picture taken, you need to take a careful look at your thoughts and responses to certain situations.... The Element Encyclopedia
If you receive the photograph of your lover, you are warned that he is not giving you his undivided loyalty, while he tries to so impress you.
For married people to dream of the possession of other persons’ photographs, foretells unwelcome disclosures of one’s conduct.
To dream that you are having your own photograph made, foretells that you will unwarily cause yourself and others’ trouble. ... Ten Thousand Dream Interpretation
Taking motion pictures in a dream predicts that any love affair in which you are at present interested will come to a happy culmination.... The Complete Dream Book
See also Camera.... The Complete Guide to Interpreting Your Dreams
It is important what is being assembled, and in what way.... Little Giant Encyclopedia
A picture of a relative or friend falling off the wall for no reason: illness or even the death of that person. Seeing pictures of your deceased parents or friends: freedom from an unpleasant situation soon.
The picture of a child, a woman, or friend: you will soon receive some new information.
Depth Psychology: Seeing a picture of people that are part of your immediate world often is a challenge to try to get to know them better. Sometimes we see pictures of people in a dream before we have even met them. Seeing ones own picture/photo in a dream is a symbol of what we know and what we think about ourselves.... Dreamers Dictionary
The same dream could mean that either she will benefit from the good qualities of her husband or he will benefit from her good qualities.... Islamic Dream Interpretation
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